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Radical Self Care as a Black woman
Radical Self Care as a Black woman. You know how you never realize you need something until you actually experience it? Like you never realize how heavy the shit is you are carrying until someone else brings it up. I decided to take this vacation because little by little I was slowly falling apart. My body, my spirit, and my mind were all in flux. I had so many ideas running through my head and felt like I couldn’t decide on anything. So many projects happening at one time and I decided to just lay my burdens down because it was getting too heavy.
The relief I felt was like, when you gotta pee and you finally make it to the commode. That intense relief that almost feels like an orgasm (or maybe it’s just me 🤷🏾♀️). I felt that as soon as I made it to my room. That relief intensified the next morning as I sat on the balcony and just breathed. My shoulders relaxed and I felt peace. No dms, no notifications, and no emails. Peace like I haven’t felt in since I was in Mexico in August .
That peace allowed me to focus on myself,my vision, and my wins. I was able to block out all distractions and just be. Nothing else mattered but my wants, needs, and desires. It was transformative and very much needed. I have been told many times that I do not celebrate my wins. Like a machine, I keep moving to the next thing. No more.
Almost 6 years ago I reinvented myself and I have not looked back. I authored a workbook journal telling my story to empower others and the reviews make me shed a tear every time. I have created virtual workshops for Black women and femmes to see themselves as the standard of beauty and celebrate their sensuality. I have created spaces for other amazing talented Black boudoir photographers to showcase their work. I am surrounded by other womxn that want to see me succeed beyond my wildest dreams.
I am extremely grateful for what I have and for what I am creating for the future. If you want to take this healing, loving, and affirming journey with me make sure you sign up for the newsletter and get a copy of The Reinvention Workbook Journal. Remember self-care is not selfish, it is selfless. Radical Self Care as a Black woman.
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Laughter is the best medicine
There is so much I can say about Jacquay, aka Mrs. Idris Elba, but the number one thing is I love her damn laugh! It is so infectious that you can’t help but laugh along with her. She has an amazing imagination. Jacquay made up an entire story about feeling like a Lieutenant Govern’s wife. She even made up what he would be wearing! I enjoyed her experience because we never stopped laughing. Listen to her speaking about the experience and getting her products below. Enjoy!
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Tanyisha’s Glam Experience
Some womxn can be hesitant or do not want to do a boudoir experience, but still want to tap into their sensuality and freedom. Which is perfectly okay sensuality is all about having the confidence to step into your power as a womxn. Tanyisha one half of the amazing sister duo, Class & Style Productions, gave me the honor helping her step into her sensuality.
“I was feeling kind of in a slump so that day and seeing the final product truly helped picked up my spirits and gave me confidence again.”
I did cry thug tears. Check out this almost 40 hot mama in action!
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Get That Old Thang Back!
Working with mothers is such a wonderful experience. I love it because when we talk about the crazy and funny antics their little or big ones get into their faces just glow! Their eyes shine bright, a smile appears and they are caught in the beautiful memory.
This is the same feeling I recreate with a glam experience. You being caught up in the moment of seeing yourself not as a mommy, but as a beautiful womxn. A womxn that gets to define her narrative of what motherhood is to her.
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Finding Freedom in Your Own Body
A few weeks ago I joined Clubhouse after swearing I wasn’t going to do it because I am team Android. Many of the business womxn I know told me it was made for me and my message. I got on and whoa! It was like the damn Wild West on this Clubhouse streets. I was not impressed and was really ready to chuck the duces and keep it moving. After more exploration and really cultivating my interest, I think I kinda got the hang of it now.
A few days into my journey I ran across a room for photographers and decided to join because the title of the room was Purpose and Positivity in Photography. I listened for a while and then decided to get bold and raise my hand to go on stage. I did this because representation matters. As I recall there was only one person of color on the stage. I got on stage talked my shit, answered a question or two, and left.
I received so many messages and follows after this. Amazing messages thanking me for getting on stage and how much it meant to see me there. I was even invited to be apart of a podcast! There will be times when you are uncertain about what you are going to say, but you know you need to speak up. Always speak up, because you never know who is listening and who you inspire.
LISTEN TO THE PODCAST EPISODE HERE:
