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3 REASONS WHY I CAN’T DO A BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE
As a Black woman, I understand the statistics about us. 80% of Black households are run by Black women. On the other side of this is we are the fastest-growing segment of the population for growing businesses. We are also the most educated. Do you know what this really means, we are FUCKING TIRED. Literally we are tired of being everything for everyone and not doing enough for ourselves.
I am 34 years old and I tell you I still have moments when I feel bad for buying something for myself. This stems from my past relationship and I know that. I recently bought a purse and didn’t take off the tag because it felt like a very indulgent purchase. Here is the crazy thing, I am a single woman with no children and I still second-guessed this purchase! So I know other women who have the same dilemma I did. Then I remembered that I deserve to have beautiful things, amazing experiences, and be to be spoiled.
Having a boudoir experience can feel like a self – indulgent leap for you. You are literally doing something that is ALL about you. All about identifying your version of sexy. Embracing your divine feminity and making your own choices. This can be very scary because it can be easy to make decisions for others, but not for when it comes to investing in ourselves.
Having your own boudoir experience will change you. Change you in ways that can be subtle or profound. No matter the type of change it always takes place and it is amazing to see. Amazing to hear the stories, witness the tears of joy and see the excitement in a Beautie’s eyes. Witness the love she has for herself when she is able to see herself as a beautiful Black goddess worthy of praise.
Now in order to get to this point, she has to get over a few barriers. Here are the top 3 barriers I hear for not having a boudoir experience:
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Divine Feminity with Ms. J
This gorgeous Beauty sent me this at the beginning of the year and I am just getting around to posting it. I have been all over the place and have finally stopped to smell the roses. Or at least stop to upload this Beautie’s images and videos. Her spirit was amazing and she personified being her authentic self. Check it out below! Tell me in the comments which image is your favorite.
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Imposter Syndrome is real
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Empowered Woman – Ms.P
How was it not should be the question! 2019 has been a deep year of introspection and tapping into my personal power. Participating in this shoot was an integral part of this work. It was a creative way to tap into the divine feminine–the inner goddess in a fully empowering and safe way. I needed something decadent and luxurious for my spirit and the Oh So Experience was it. I have always had an inner sex appeal that I want to cultivate as a part of my confident grown woman brand; I believe this experience will certainly help with this journey.
Olesha is super encouraging – I felt like Naomi Campbell in real life and not just in my head. She helps you push through into the bold and provocative while still helping me feel comfortable in my skin. I did a photo series in a sheer bathrobe that would have been outside my comfort zone normally but I really felt the beauty of my curves and feminity. I truly loved it.
I did. I was nervous about the photos being too risque or out of alignment with my brand as a professional marketer but the photos turned out to very beautiful, classy, and revealing about my true self—not the professional cover I put on to appear safe in the world.
Drop any reservations you have and just go for it – life as far as we know only happens once so it’s best to just enjoy it, have fun and live in your power one adventure at a time.
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Empowered Woman – Mrs. T
My boudoir experience empowered me to not only love my adult body but to be unapologetic about it, make no excuses for it and to just enjoy and love being ME!
My favorite part was the girl talk while prepping for the shoot. We talked about dating, self care, life, etc. and went LOVE so others could join in. It really felt like a good girlfriends getting together to have girl talk, get dressed up and take pictures. A very personable experience for what can be a very intimate and intimidating space for people.
I would tell others preparing for the shoot to be COMFORTABLE WITH THE UNCOMFORTABLE, your slay depends on it lol! Seriously, even with all of the direction Olesha gave I had a ball because I let go, and she captured who I am at this stage in my life; which is sexy and unapologetically me!
