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Travel Boudoir: Jamaica
I went to Jamaica to host a workshop for Black women and self-love. While there I had the opportunity to capture some beautiful boudoir images of Beautiful Black women with the luxe tulle robe. Let me tell you this robe has a mind of it’s own! Trying to stuff it in my suitcase was not fun at all. I tried rolling it into a ball. That was not the best move at all.
I finally decided to just stuff it in the top portion of my suitcase where you usally put the toiletries. I folded it as best I could and layed it flat then zippened it. It worked! So glad I decided to have it there because the images would not have been the same without it.
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Jamaica Retreat
WE WENT RAFTING! I went to Jamaica and ain’t get my groove back!
I was invited to Jamaica by Tinashe Musiyiwa of TinTrips to host a self-love workshop based on my Reinvention Workbook Journal. This was truly a first for me because all my workshops have been virtual since the pandemic started. To see my photo dumps reels click on the links:
I went to Jamaica and did so many things I have never done before! I went horseback riding and my thighs were not ready. We did this on land and in the ocean. The ocean ride was an experience because I was not on a saddle and my horse was done with everybody! The guide tried to get him to go right and he said naw fam I am going back to the beach. It was exhilarating because the horse is such a majestic animal and then you see all that floating shit.
I remember my barber once told me he did something similar on vacation. He said if you ever do it DO NOT BE THE LAST HORSE! On the walking trail, I was the last horse and there was manure everywhere! I made sure not to be last in the water because shit floats. Made sure you stick that little piece of advice in your back pocket for later. You’re welcome.
Yes I have on water shoes and yes I was scared! 
After the horses, we went on the 4 wheelers, something else I had not had the pleasure of doing before. Another word of advice, people who drive like assholes in their cars do the same on the 4 wheelers. The person behind me kept bumping me. She said, “This is how I drive at home. I stay on people bumpers!” I am a cautious and respectful driver so I kept a good distance. I did turn around and give her the evil eye. She just laughed. (insert eye roll)
I really love how my breast look here. You see the bumper chaser behind me! 
THIS IS THE PERPETRATOR! That is how they drive in St.Loius I guess lol The third part of our excursion was the zip line. It truly felt like the harness was assaulting my pelvis and vulva. I was so glad I didn’t end up wearing denim shorts. I would have had the worst wedgie in my life! Climbing the platform was scary. The platform was shaking and we had to walk single file up the steps.
Once I made it to the top the view was so beautiful. I saw the ocean, the trees, the white lady that was taking pictures and videos of us without permission. I watched about 8 people do it before it was my turn. I still was not ready! The instructor told me I had to sit, I refused. Why I have no idea, my brain went into protect mode maybe.
I did make it across and you girl did not scream! Not sure why this is a badge of honor for me, but I’m a take it. When I got to the 2nd to last zip line my voice got super high, probably from the adrenaline rush, and the guide imitated me. That was not my best moment. Other than almost losing my legs on the last one I had a good time!
To round out the entire day we got on a party boat. Now I have been to one of these in DR and it was lit! So I sorta knew what to expect. What I did not expect was for Mother Nature to play us and drop that temperature and the sun go behind the clouds.
We were supposed to go snorkeling and if you know anything about me, I am always cold. So, I declined, even though I really wanted to go. Peer pressure is a beast and the women I was with egged me on. So glad I did it, cold and all. I got to hold a sea urchin and sea slug and to see a small school of fish. It was worth it and the sun came back out when we got on the boat.
Now, this is when the party started. As I said before I have been on a party boat, and you had to walk to the bar to get drinks. On this boat, they brought the pitcher to us. Not only the pitcher but also shots. It was such a nice experience to sip on a drink and watch the waves.
They told him it was birthday and he was singing to me This is something I want every Black womxn to experience a few times in their life. I am currently working on building retreats for 2023 and beyond that take us all across the world. If are interested in being a part of this experience click here.
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Juneteenth Remembrance -Rest
Juneteenth remembrance should be a day of rest. Rest is something that I have had problems with. Burned out does not even begin to describe how I felt being an educator and a business owner. The bags under my eyes, my skin, and my body all told the story. Trying to be my Ancestor’s wildest dreams I forgot that their major dream was to rest. To have a choice on when to work. Working hard is ingrained into our DNA. I am making a choice to not only rest in remembrance of Juneteenth, but to rest when my body tells me to.
Our Ancestors wildest dream was to rest.
Our Ancestors wildest dream was to laugh without punishment.
Our Ancestors wildest dream was to create just for themselves.
Our Ancestors wildest dream was freedom.
When we hustle hard, push through, and make a way we are only honoring one part of our Ancestors dreams. Today take time to rest in their honor. Take time to call family and friends to check in. Take time to create. Take time to do anything that gives you pleasure.
How are you honoring your Ancestors today?
The Juneteenth Affirmation is from Julia Mallory, Black Mermaids
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Patreace’s Boudoir Experience
Patreace’s Boudoir Experience started out with an initial consultation for a boudoir experience that was just for her. She was ready to step back into her sexy after getting married and having a baby. We spoke about her not having professional images of herself and her husband as a couple. She wanted to do something special to reinforce their connection to each other. Even with though the experience was for her she asked if she could do a few pictures with her husband and I said hell yes! I LOVE couple’s boudoir experiences!
Photographing couples is one of my absolute favorite things to shoot. There is a level of trust that has to be between the couple and the photographer. They are allowing you into their safe space of intimacy and that is not to be taken lightly. I am always honored when I get to do a boudoir experience, but doing a couples experience is a privilege. These experiences are filled with sexual energy, sexual tension, laughter, deeper intimacy, and a lot of lip biting! If you are a photographer interested in deepening your connection with your couples, click here.
The Gorgeous Couple
Now back to this gorgeous couple. Patreace stole the show with this one! She informed me that she had never done a professional shoot before. After the experience, I had to ask her again because she did sooo well! Patreace’s Boudoir Experience was all about her. She was ready and able to execute the poses which made my job so easy. Beauties are guided through each and every pose, but each person makes it their own. Patreace made it her own!
Check out this quick video of Patreace receiving her gorgeous products from her experience! Watch until the end to hear how she loved it and the level of intimacy it brought to her marriage.
Interested in a couple or solo boudoir experience? Get started by using this link to complete a short form and schedule your free consultation.
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4 WAYS TO GET SEXY FOR A BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE
For each consultation I always ask my Beauties, my clients, to use 3 to 4 words that describe who they are at this time in their life. Rarely does the word sexy come up. I have heard pretty, helpful, resilient, kind, and even beautiful, but rarely sexy. With this in mind I have decided to write this blog post on 4 WAYS TO GET SEXY FOR A BOUDOIR EXPERIENCE! I even made sure to post images. Enjoy!
1. Lose Weight
We all in some form or fashion have had a friend, family member or even a complete stranger say we need to lose weight. If we just lost a little weight we would look better. Or recently I heard if so and so lost weight they could get and keep a man. Whew child! Those people are not your friends and even family can get a side-eye and blocked. SEXY HAS NO SIZE! Sexy, like confidence, is a state of mind. No amount of weight loss will make you feel sexy if you don’t believe it.
2. Don’t Smile
During the initial consultation, we are laughing and having an amazing time getting to know each other. That same energy is carried into the actual experience. Joy is sexy. Laughter is sexy. Being happy is sexy! A boudoir experience is one way to honor your body as it is now. Your body is a work of art. It nourishes you, it has kept you alive during this pandemic. It needs to be celebrated. We need to look at our bodies and smile.
3. Straighten Your Hair
For special occasions throughout our history getting our hair pressed was a rite of passage. You have seen the memes around Easter of the hot comb. Or having to straighten your hair to look more presentable to get that job interview. Discrimination around our hair is very real and alive and well. Our hair is a beautiful reflection of who we are whether it be braided, relaxed, cornrowed, etc. All of these styles are sexy because we make them sexy. You make them sexy.
4. Only Wear Lingerie
When it comes to a boudoir experience you are in total control of what you place on your body. Lingerie is not really my jam. I love a good silk robe or my waistbands and nothing at all. That is my version of getting sexy. Yes, I have a full client closet with lingerie from sizes 5XL to XS. I also have sweaters, dress shirts, tank tops, crop tops, and t-shirts. Just like Black & Brown womxn come in all forms and shades, your sexy look should be a reflection of you.
To use these 4 ways to get sexy for a boudoir experience and began your journey of sexy on your on terms click here.
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